There’s a saying that goes, “No man is an island.” I’m sure many of us wished we could be self-sufficient, self-sustainable, and self-reliant on our island. The truth of the matter is that we are afraid of asking for “help.”
As I write this, I’m thinking of all the times I had to ask for help, and in those moments, I felt vulnerable, naked, and exposed. It was as if the world was pointing its finger at me, repeating the words “failure.” There is a crippling fear that we experience at times when we need to ask for help that can sound like, “What will they think of me?”
Why do we allow what people think to stop us from getting the help we need? We don’t want our coworkers to see us with clip-out coupons at the store because they will think we are struggling financially. We don’t want our neighbors to know we are going to couples counseling, so we leave in different vehicles at different times. Just for a moment, let’s think about what's wrong with using coupons, if it saves you a little money at the store? What’s wrong with seeking avenues that will better your relationship or even you as an individual? You're probably saying, “It’s easier said than done” I get that. But remember, unless you shovel the snow in your driveway, all it will do is harden. So instead of you excavating or removing soft snow, now you must dig through hard ice. And every time I let it get there, I regret it.
In this world, I have learned that at some point in our lives, we will need help. Maybe a shoulder to cry on, a body to embrace, or perhaps a hand to pick us up. Don’t wait until you have “ice to remove” or the problems have solidified in your life, get the help you need, call someone, and make it your business to live a better life now.
RM
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